Preach, Mabel! Selena Gomez is not mincing words about her experience as a famous woman grappling with online negativity, and the effect it’s had on her.

The Only Murders in the Building star and her fiancé, music producer Benny Blanco, sat down together for a revealing conversation on the On Purpose with Jay Shetty Podcast when the subject of negative social media comments came up, and Blanco revealed that he doesn’t read them, nor does he care what people think.

Gomez had a different perspective, though. “I was also going to point out that women have it much worse,” she added. “From my perspective it’s pretty wild, and I think this isn’t news to anybody, that obviously women have a lot more intense feelings from their appearance to what they’re wearing to everything.”

Unlike her fiancé, Gomez admitted she does sometimes see what people are saying about her online. “When I get prepared for an event, 90 percent of the time I’m just like, ‘I just hope I can take the picture and sit down,’” but, she added, “It’s the character that gets judged, it’s the way I’m not white enough, I’m not Mexican enough.”

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The Emilia Pérez star continued, “There’s just so many different things that come up in my face that I can’t help but see, but I fall victim to looking at things, and it really doesn’t add to your life, but it’s just so difficult. From the choices of people you date — it’s like nobody cares about those kind of things with men.”

She also brought up negative comments people have made about her weight online. Gomez has been open in the past about having chronic autoimmune disorder lupus, and how the medications she takes for her treatment can cause her weight to fluctuate.

“Oh yeah, my weight’s a big one too,” she continued on the podcast. “Everyone just has something to say and it’s really making me sad and — not even sad ‘cause, I’m not a victim, everyone — I just think it’s made me a tad bitter, and I feel really guilty for saying that, but it’s true.” 

But the I Said I Love You First singer has, at least for now, made her peace with it all. “I had to stop after a while, and I still take breaks completely because I’m human, so of course sometimes I read things, but I do most of the time ignore most of everything,” she said, adding that she doesn’t “have anything” on her phone at the moment. “So there are ways to combat it,” she concluded. “I’m not in like a ‘I hate it’ — I understand the power of what social media is, it’s just tricky.”