Alright, who ghosted Drew Barrymore?

During Monday’s episode of her talk show, the 50 First Dates actress revealed that she’d been recently asked out on a dinner date by an unnamed suitor, only for him to abruptly stop texting her after extending the invitation. 

“I texted him and I was like, ‘Lovely to see you again the other night.’ We went back and forth twice and then he ended with ‘Ha.’ And I haven’t heard anything,” Barrymore said. “So it just happens. I don’t know why! I don’t know why. I would never do that. It doesn’t cross my mind to behave like that. Like, if you put a fishing pole in it, why aren’t you gonna follow through?”

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The host’s Drew Crew pals, Valerie Bertinelli and Ross Mathews, were similarly unimpressed with the man’s behavior. “Don’t bait the hook if you’re not gonna reel it in,” Bertinelli said. Mathews added, “There’s a lot of other things you could do with your worm, you know what I mean?”

Still, Barrymore used her experience as a way to provide her audience with a sense of comfort in knowing that even award-winning actresses gets ghosted sometimes. “It does happen to all of us!” She said. “The best of us, good people, who wouldn’t treat other people like that necessarily.”

Barrymore noted that she and her gal pals got so invested in the man’s final text that they were analyzing the message for any secret clues.“Today, my friend said, ‘Well, did he answer the ha with one a?’ I’m not kidding. This happened,” she recalled. “And I was like, ‘No, it was like five or six a’s.’ And they were like, ‘Oh no, that’s great!’” 

Mathews agreed that a longer laugh felt more encouraging than a flat chuckle. “As a man, and I am, it’s slightly more encouraging if it was like, ‘hahahahaha.’ Because that means it’s like, the conversation’s going,” he pointed out. “It wasn’t like ‘Ha,’ period, right? It was ‘Haaaa, what’s next?’”

“I’ll tell you what’s next: English,” Barrymore deadpanned, prompting Mathews to reply, “Okay, understood.” 

Instead, Barrymore said that she prefers clear and concise communication. “I don’t wanna date in a way that if I get four a’s, I’m in. I don’t know what that means,” she added. “It’s cryptic out there, so let’s just not indulge in people who waste our time. Those people are actually timesavers.”

Turning to the audience, Barrymore acknowledged that situations like suddenly not hearing from a potential partner — or even saying something silly — can often send people spiraling into a “critical place” where they question their own self-worth. 

“We are all just beautiful, delicate, intricate, funny, little human creatures and my God, if there’s one thing that the wisdom of my life is giving to me now at 50 years old it’s to be a little kinder — a lot kinder — to ourselves,” she concluded. “You deserve nothing less than goodness. You are the love of your life. And treat yourself the way we are so desperate to give to others. I would love to just not beat up on myself for an hour or for a day. So as much as we would love to find someone great out there, I can’t wait to find someone great in here.” 

Dating is a hot-button topic on The Drew Barrymore Show, with the host often asking her guests for relationship advice, inviting matchmakers to share their knowledge, and speaking honestly about her own dating experiences — both good and the potentially deadly. 

The Drew Barrymore Show airs weekdays on CBS.